Hello there. These
are social lessons I have learned, in chronological order, from various adventures, books, and practices. Enjoy!
-12 months ago I returned
home from a month and a half in the mountains.
Lesson: People are important. Only by
interacting with people can I learn to love.
People have always been my
weak spot. I often find myself subtly
frustrated or disappointed with others.
Why is that? The only explanation is expectations – I am viewing social
situations incorrectly.
-11 months ago I read The Social Animal by David Brooks.
Lesson:Humans are social animals. We are built to interact
with each other. Our Holy Genes preach
‘thou humans shall find meaning through thy neighbors.’ This is must be embraced
– much natural happiness is found in company with others.
Practice has always been
my motto. Life is earned through hard work and perseverance. If social skills are my weakness, I
should improve on this area. Much is to be gained. All it takes is courage and effort.
-10 months ago I began practicing
social skills. These include:
· All skills
may be learned, practiced, and mastered. You just need to begin and continue.
·
Some people
you click with, others you don’t. Stick to the people with whom you click.
·
Don’t try
to be someone else. You’ll fail.
·
Make conscious
effort to pay attention to body language and tone
·
Look people
in the eye, smile, and be confident.
·
Make an
effort to stay awake, interested, and engaged
·
Let go of
social mistakes you make or awkwardness (it doesn’t matter anyways)
·
Let others
be themselves and let the situation unfold by itself.
·
Feel
heart-center (direct your attention to your heart) to stay grounded and relaxed
People are a spiritual
priority.
-1 month
ago I began spiritual social practices. These include:
·
Gather
myself before to generate positive thoughts about the people I will be with.
·
Physically smile and contemplate my attitude.
My attitude going into the situation will affect how I perceive the situation.
If bad attitude, then try to counter it with reasoning and relaxing. (psychology
has proven that smiling affects attitude)
·
Take a few
breaths to ground myself, relaxing as I breath out
·
Contemplate
how the upcoming situation is a chance to practice and grow
·
Reflect how
much I have been assisted by others
·
Prayer. I
just sit there and pray to whatever comes up. Sometimes I pray for myself,
other times for the well-being of others. Never been a huge prayer but hey,
keeping my mind open. It’s kind of fun too!
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